Long Term Dating & Relationships
There are a few reasons why a relationship can fizzle out, or fade away. And sometimes we can get ahead of ourselves, or just play it too cold. Everyone male and female need to ease into what feels comfortable, enjoyable, and worth their time & effort. Therefore, if there are any red flags, or any strong behaviours, and undesirable behaviours, you should seek to correct them.
People have a lot of options these days. Many people seem to be selfish. But if you meet someone you like, that treats you right, keep it light and positive for as long as possible.
You dont want to end early and be jerking off. So take time with your partner. Girls love it when you spend time. Girls that dont like you will let you spend your money. The ones who really like you want to save up, and build.
Building emotional trust, conversational styles, sociable activities, and excitement helps keep things ticking over. This creates oxytocin, and dopamine, which will help the relationship grow. Sharing, doing, laughing. Just going with the flow, and having fun.
Are you flexible and easy going? Or, do you have a lot of issues, oroverbearing attitude that makes things difficult for your partner? Both men & women can dig their heels in, and be stubborn. Are you willing to be the loving partner youre searching for?
What Makes A Real Relationship Work?
The way you manage your life, and carry yourself is what really counts in relationships. How you speak, pay attention, and how you not onl give feedback, but show you care.
The way you treat your other half, understand them, and not just take them for granted. And the way that you guide them on how to treat you. Something you dont want to overlook. Show the other half exactly what you like, and praise them. Show more ppreciation, and give plenty of encouragement in the moment.
Theres no shame in showing gratitude, being sincere. Just make sure you dont overdo it. And dont give tp much. Keep it reciprical
You may both share a dream, and it may be that even though there is love, you may find there are just too many differences between you. The differences could be lifestyle, culture, friends, work, age, or habits. And these have to be handled properly and maturely. Recognise the differences, and you can try to solve them together, or simply move on.
Why People Drift Apart?
When people stop making an effort, taking the other half for granted, start being unfair, cruel, or abusing the trust. Lies, or refusing to listen are the main reasons relationships fizzle out.
Honesty, kindness, respect, caring, and too much familiarity can get tedious & boring, or even become a nightmare. Some people are not who they say they are, or pretend to be. Many people fake it to be in a relationship. Later on down the line, the cracks begin to show. Men are often good at hiding and disguising their true nature. Worried they won’t be accepted. But many women can handle your nature in small stages. Dont just blirt out or change moods, or go overboard.
Younger adults may be having issues about their sexuality, mentality, and careers. They probably are not entirely ready for an adult relationship. Sometimes practicing or even preparing for a relationship, working, and enjoying life, not overly focusing on relationship is needed.
Sonetimes it hurts when we see our friends in happy successful relationships, not because we envy them, we are happy for them. But it can make you feel quite lonely to be the gooseberry all of the time. Rather than focus on other peoples outward success, feeling like a lonely loser, comparing, you could be focusing on yourself, your future, and what you want it to be like. You can still hang out with friends once in a while. But you want to learn and study, or save up for that dream car or mansion. Remember that everyones different, dont try to copy others pr fit in. Follow your own dreams, instead of living in the shadows.
Stay active, bubbly, interested, interesting, and always keep moving onwards and upwatds.
Testosterone build up, and sexual frustration when an argument has occurred, or when sex is being denied. Men will take this for a while, but will find someone else. They may buy a pussy toy or jerk off for a while. But their needs and desires will shift. Unless youre married, a man will move on.
Females can also experience lack of orgasm, or disappointments, or get bored in the sack. But hormones and diet can play a role also.
Balancing hormones with the correct diet, and a healthy lifestyle. A fun relationship, healthy diet & lifestyle is the best way. Its not about always cooking your favourite things. Everyones responsible for their wellnees, and what they bring to the table in yhe relationship. Dont expect a lady to be your Mother. She doesnt know you in that way. And she may or may not have had chdren of her own. Make sure that you do some things for yoursrlf, and stay self reliant.
Finding the right way to satisfy yourself without pressuring your partner, or guilting your partner is the best way to go. And keep them guessing. But if you decide to play, or have an affair, just make sure youre both comfortable with it. Some couples are open in exploring together, for example. Playing or they might bring someone else into the relationship to spice things up..
The person who has the strongest feelings is going to be the one most effected. Therefore, they should lead on the experimentation front, to give them a sense of pace, security, and slowly ease into it.
Staying self reliant is attractive, but its also a good idea in case the relationship doesnt work out. While its nive to have someone to depend on or snuggle up to, people can be fickle. Enjoy the moments you share together. But neber take anytjing or anyone for granted.
Women have to learn about mens hormones. Men like to be needed, appreciated, and desired. Thats about all they really desire. When a female (or male) looks up to them, respects them, and trusts them, genuinely, and seeks to understand them, this is how the relationship lasts. Gradually unlocking and revealing more attractive and fun parts.
Why Do Women Cheat?
Women cheat if they are missing out on the love and attention through inconsistency (male cheating), or, sometimes it can be hormonal, and chemical. Women can have their heart for one man, but their bodies may want someone else, even if they don’t know it yet. Sometimes the man can be insensitive, or boring in the bedroom. Women need excitement and fun too.
Ladies enjoy exploring with partners. But sometimes less is more. When there is high pressure to perform, or they do not reach their climax, over time they will feel unhappy, frustrated, even if everything else is going right. Guys should find out what women like, not just what they want. And never presume. Women have a wild side too. Discussing sex more, but not in a crude way. Girls love to talk about sex actually. They think about sex less than men. But they probably think more deeply about it!
What Not To Do!
Things like nagging, dominant behaviour, emotional outbursts, tantrums, cheating, and communication problems are the first sign of what’s to come down the line. Your partner has two options. They can run for the hills and take cover. Or, they can care and try to work things out, and support you. But don’t abuse the kindness in your relationship. There is a limit to what your partner will tolerate long term.
Inexperience can make people behave out of passion, or lust, or turn the other cheek, or wear rose-tinted glasses. People who are a soft touch are not considered suitable partners. People must have a backbone, and respect themselves in order to attract a suitable long term partner. Don’t show your weakness or vulnerability too early (if at all). Have some pride and self respect.
We may seek to control out of fear of losing someone. But ultimately drive them away into the arms of someone else. The same thing happens when we play hard to get. Or when we fail to be there when needed. Forgetting anniversaries, special occasions, dates, and arrangements, are a big no no.
Not fitting the script when with family & friends. You must be as regular as possible when you are with family and friends, and you want to impress them. Be yourself, be confident, and just be you. Make a home in you, and something your partner can rely on. Not just the other way around. Show their friends and family love too.
Compatibility- Are You Really Compatible?
Repeated behaviours, incompatible habits, lifestyle choices can make things quite difficult to carry on. Sex is another topic. For men, there must be plenty of attraction, excitement, and perks. For women, excitement, consistency, honesty, and commitment are all important. It can’t be all encompassing. Both partners should be comfortable, happy, and feel secure, appreciated, and cared about.
Are You Ready For A Relationship?
Many people crave to be in a relationship, and not have a succession of one night stands. Though many play it cool. Everyone is looking for the one. But they may have one or two things going on. It can be lonely figuring stuff out, getting rejected, or wasting your time on the wrong type. But we attract what we feel. You should be able to recognise how you feel, and your base emotion. Are you balanced? Are you strong, can you be there for someone else?
People have huge expectations and ideals. This is from the way they were raised, their peers, culture, and belief system. So, if they let you know what they can deal with, and what they can’t, take their word for it. Listen carefully to the love language.
If you’re not great at communicating well, or lack people skills, then why not practice those skills. And at the same time, consider therapy. If you do have emotional baggage, or insecurities, it will sour a good relationship. Sometimes people need a bit of coaching, mentoring, or a friendly ear, so they can feel sure about what’s. really going on. An honest opinion helps. We tend not to listen to our friends and family. So get a second opinion, and talk to your partner. But less talking, and just feel the moment. Noticing things, relaxing, and doing other things, this will keep the interest going, and developing yourself, learning, growing.
Know how to put yourself first, your family second, and your partner a top three. You can’t put everything into something, that may end anytime. Making the partner number one, or putting them on a pedastool isn’t the way to stay happy in any relationship.
ALWAYS put yourself first, in terms of healthy you. Then you can decide if this relationship is actually right for you.
